how insulting!

for ruffa to practically even embrace the "battered wife" image and be spokesperson just the same for its cause is totally insulting!

http://www.pep.ph/news/13849/Ruffa-Gutierrez-visits-other-abused-women

ruffa, you are a lot of things, but you are not
1) a battered wife
2) someone who have any decency
3) someone as worthy to champion the cause of real battered wives

this is another publicity stint for you and nothing else ... PWE!

all's well that ends well?

there is this nagging feeling in me that events of the past few weeks will turn into an awkward development between the "battered" ruffa and the "abusive" yilmaz. after reading another article as below, would it be safe to say that everything that has transpired on both print and TV media is all for a show?

http://www.philstar.com/index.php?Showbiz&p=50&type=2&sec=58&aid=20070629149

geez, the pinoy entertainment business is truly beyond any sense of reason and common decency.

more "glorification" of a bigamist's act?

reputation? pwe!

http://www.pep.ph/media.php?id=628

do i really need to say more?

holy cow!

more dirty garbage to come? the nerve of ruffa to ask the filipino public to leave her first husband alone - yaiks!

http://www.pep.ph/news/13838/Ruffa-Gutierrez-asks-media-to-leave-first-husband-alone

didn't i tell you folks earlier that the circus will still go on and on and on and on and on ... with this publicity hungry "princess" (sic) wannabe, you can never tell where her brains are. i'm so throwing up already ... really!

busted, for the nth time!

boy, was i not surprised to read this ... and i still don't believe the battery issue - pure lies!

http://www.journal.com.ph/index.php?issue=2007-06-29&sec=3&aid=22874

an ounce of humility or arrogance?

i can never really tell if this is the true face of someone battered and faulted ... but i can tell you that this is one face of a VERY battered woman who fully recovered in a span of only a week or two! don't you ever wonder at all? nah, i guess i know - it's all for the show! always has, always been ... surprised?

http://www.pep.ph/news/13738/Fabulous-fashion-at-Ruffa-Gutierrezs-birthday-bash

http://www.pep.ph/media.php?id=604

and another thought ...

ruffa wanted yilmaz to stop giving interviews and issuing his statements to the filipino people, but hey - isn't it she who started all this? telling one lie after the other - yilmaz merely tries to "correct" her statements ... now, people are getting confused as to who to believe.

well, i know where i stand and i do have an inkling as to who to believe, do you?

more revelations ...

below is yilmaz answer to ruffa's claim of physical abuse and battery ...

http://showbizandstyle.inquirer.net/entertainment/entertainment/view_article.php?article_id=71145

this whole circus doesn't seem to want to stop ... c'mon now, file those cases already in court and not throw venom at each other. you see, as soon as all of these cases get filed in court, we'll soon see who's been lying and who's been telling the truth. at least when things are already in court, there will be enough documents to feast our eyes on - agree or disagree?

the truth and nothing but the truth?

i kinda like this post ... could this be the truth and nothing but the truth? here's an excerpt from http://cheesedip.com/2003/03/30/ruffas_wedding.php

“hi all,

i think it was late 80s or early 90s when the gutierrez family return to philippines from US. Back then, eddie was still dignified to elaborate how humble their lives were in US, selling different stuffs of which the more popular are kalderos… the children are not known yet, only eddie g. has the name recall and even he has to start from square 1. there were many people who helped them… you should have seen how shabby their first house was as in really because they can’t afford a more expensive one…. soon after eddie g. got into movies of course (regal films) so they were able to move to whiteplains…

that time, the queen of talk show is inday badiday( luz carvajal, mother of dolly ann carvajal, take note also that the grandfather of dolly ann was formerly a Philippine ambassador). she is very influential in the sense mas sikat pa sya compared sa the buzz and showbiz central… inday was one who helped eddie g. in so many ways, one of which is money ( binigyan talaga nya si annabelle and eddie because nga wa cash sila)… and of course if an artista guested in her show maganda ang media mileage…. it was also in this program of inday badiday where cristy fermin, lolit solis and the likes started… para silang mga neophytes na under training… soon they become competitions to her.

fast forward to ruffa’s life, she is rebellious in many ways… so nag-artista na rin and eventually paired with some guys and na-involve with dennis da silva… because of being rebellious ayun sya pa ang nagyaya na mag-elope sila ni dennis…. eventually, annabelle stormed dennis’ house and binawi si ruffa… this was the start of her calling people patay-gutom… then on ruffa get entangled with different men…

the issue of her being second princess in ms world i think has a connection with the brunei scandal… there was a batch of beauties who went to brunei to entertain the family of sultan… and when this batch came back, they started buying some properties… here ruffa bought her beverly hills condo in greenhills ….

then, the family went into producing films …

in between they got entangled with different scandals, ruffa and friends were photoed topless while getting drunk… ayun, one of the girls’ boyfriend sort of posted the photos in the internet… sila yun

annabelle for her part learned the ropes in the showbiz world… on the side she sells jewelries, manage mga starlets (these are the bold genre), and then yun nga produce some concerts and 1 or 2 movies, and also was able to have her own clouts in media… and her other sideline is to supply por kilo sa mga DOM na corrupt politicians… at one time, i think in startalk or s-files there was a starlet crying and accusing annabelle of being bugaw… the following episode annabelle was in the same show and badmouthed the starlet like what she did with dolly anne… the next thing we know wa na career yung starlet pero andyan pa rin si annabelle

back to ruffa… sometime in 1999, there was a very influential DOM who wants ruffa por kilo… annabelle has no qualms kase nga me datung… well, this DOM has several wives and they live comfortably in posh villages (forbes park, wack-wack and the likes), kaya ok lang k annabelle… but this time ruffa refused… she rebelled so fly sya sa US… dito na yun start sya mag-job hunting of which she landed as anchor host of century and kasama na sa rebellion nya yung pagpapa-kasal kay richard daloia… and eventually she met yilmaz… at this point, nag-reconcile na ang mother and daughter…. and eto na sila ngayon…

sometimes i was asking, if ruffa’s jewelries really came from yilmaz or from annabelle

said yilmazzen on Jun 6, 2007 at 8:14 AM”

i did see this coming ...

... that ruffa gutierrez will eventually admit to being married to a certain richard daloia in january 1999

... that yilmaz had no knowledge of this first marriage

... that there would be no divorce as there was no legitimate marriage in the first place

... that yilmaz would rage and sue to 1) seek custody of their children and 2) charge ruffa in court for bigamy as well as 3) declare ruffa as an unfit mother

... that dolly anne carvajal would have the last laugh on the "marriage and drugsmuggling activities" articles she wrote and annabelle rama would be quiet (at least for a while until she can come up with another mouthful to say)

... that ruffa, being the big crook and liar, would try to save her face and plead innocence and give the "i-am-the victim"-stance to the general public

what a circus! boy, what the nerve! wouldn't you agree that ruffa is nothing but a fraud, a conceited and bashful liar (big time!), a deceitful, manipulative and conniving bitch of all bitches? with all her stinking "garbage" out in the open, she was hardly sorry for anything! not an ounce of shame in her at all .... someone, please spit on her face and tell her point blank that she stinks! and when you did, do let me know - so I can dance the jig!

que sera, sera

What a week full of revelations! It’s amazing how things have developed. For the better? I don’t know really. Let’s make a re-cap ..

Ruffa flee to USA – yes, with children, and yaya and annabelle in tow. She even managed to wage a word war with dolly anne carvajal when the latter translated and published links as emailed to her by her readers. She was peeved and slighted by the write up about her alleged marriage to a Richard Daloia and the piece about yilmaz’ family background. But why the heck can’t she confirm or deny these? To assault a respectable journalist such as Dolly Anne and accuse her of poor journalism is a big mistake ... you barked at the wrong tree, Ruffa! Now, it is likely that more of your hidden “can of worms” will be made available to the filipino public. Don’t you have any shame left in you?

Yilmaz calling Ruffa a traitor (and yes, nicknamed her Brutus, too) – the poor chap suddenly became aware of how Ruffa had ridiculed him and their marriage for the sake of publicity. He came to know about how Ruffa tried to turn the chain of event into her advantage – seeking public support and projecting herself as the “victim” in this drama, to the point of trying to revert the truth and imply to the public that she is the one leaving Yilmaz because “she can’t take it anymore” and not the other way around – the nerve! She made a circus of her marital problems, insulted the muslim community when she re-affirmed her christian faith (sic), played on the emotions and sympathies of the filipino people, and that of Yilmaz, too. I have suspected early on that Ruffa was not telling the truth as to the real issues surrounding Yilmaz’ ultimatum in seeking divorce – that Ruffa have to choose between their family or her career.

Yilmaz, according to Ruffa, hoped for a reconciliation – he seeked the opportunity for them to talk ... but Ruffa simply gave him the runaround. Why? Is it because she saw an opportunity to really break away from their marriage? Ok, their marriage ... hmmm?! Was their marriage even binding? Can someone show a copy of this so-called marriage registered in the Philippines? Did anyone bothered at all? You see, I’ve been trying to do some math here ... Ruffa supposedly got married to this Daloia guy in January 1999. She met Yilmaz during the Cannes Film Festival in 2000 – meaning Ruffa was still (?) married when she met Yilmaz? Did she managed to divorce the guy before she met Yilmaz? Or did she divorce the guy after she met Yilmaz? Why are there no divorce records found? There are records of the marriage, remember? Yilmaz and Ruffa got married in March 2003 – and at the same time Yilmaz announced Ruffa was pregnant. There’s talk on blog threads – could it be that Lorin is Daloia’s and not Yilmaz’ daughter? Venice look very much Eurasian compared to Lorin – I do hope this is all but pure gossip, for Ruffa’s sake.

Rumour started surfacing when Ruffa, time and again, showed up in Manila with her standard showbiz phrase – “I miss my family and friends”, “I miss showbiz”, “I have a commitment to fulfill” ... this could go on. People’s wagging tongues starting blabbering – something’s definitely wrong in her well acclaimed “Istanbul paradise”.

When Ruffa claimed she married Yilmaz for love – honestly, I doubted it from the very beginning. Boy, was it such a relief to be proven right all along. It’s not nice to gloat, but I sure did – just because all her big fat lies finally slapped her hard on her face.

Seeing the first video interview of Yilmaz where he struggled to explain his side in a language truly foreign to him, I feel his frustration, disappointment and sadness. This guy’s no saint, he never claimed himself to be. Ruffa was the one who’s been telling one and all what kind of a husband he is – directly and indirectly. The public has formed their very own impression on this guy ... all according to the information Ruffa so willingly addressed in her all too perfect ways. Some people were in awe, others squirmed (and got goosebumps in the process).

Yilmaz, according to the latest exchange of TV interviews and print media, has now claimed that Ruffa lied about a lot of things. He was right in saying that Ruffa was disrespectful of him (and his family, of course) – one has to go through all Ruffa’s interviews and will understand his sentiments. Honour to a muslim is sacred. Ruffa crossed this very dangerous line and Yilmaz will not be forgiving. Now, he claims that he will fight custody for his children – and he is likely to have Ruffa be declared as an unfit mother. For Yilmaz to even start this line of defense to bring in lawyers to settle and end their marital woes, Ruffa will surely be in a lot of trouble. She will now have to secure a substantiable evidence and solid proof why Yilmaz is not fit for custody of their children. In doing so, more “dirty linen” is likely to surface.

At this point in time, Annabelle suddenly got wise in advising Ruffa “not to talk anymore” – does she sense “trouble” herself? Ruffa have also maintained that she “never said anything against him” – how wrong she is! For goodness sake, to say that “husbands own their wives” in Yilmaz culture is already an insult to the guy. She has claimed to have embraced the muslim religion and culture earlier only to later turn her back on this very sacred part of her husband’s individuality – that is one big insult not only to Yilmaz but to his whole family as well. Also, to tell in print (and TV?) interviews that her husband doesn't speak (and understand?) English is another thing - that too is very insensitive of Ruffa. And if I may ask, how do they communicate in all those 7 years together? Her refusal to go back to Istanbul depriving Yilmaz of her presence as his wife and that of the children in more than two months speaks volume of disrespect. One need not say anything per se, Ruffa’s actions are bigger than words. Does Ruffa truly have a valid reason not to go back to Istanbul? What's the real issue behind the crying drama both mother and daughter displayed on national TV? Bear in mind that all her interviews are published and recorded – so, Ruffa, think first before you speak. For all you know, all these can be used against you.

This drama isn’t over yet ... it will surely get more and more complicated. Yes, Ruffa, consult the best lawyers there is. I’d say the circus is not over ... the “clowns” are still on centerstage, and so are the spectators as we ... waiting for the curtains to signal its end. Will it ever end?

As the song goes ...
Que sera, sera ... whatever will be, will be ... the future’s not ours to see ... que sera, sera!