que sera, sera

What a week full of revelations! It’s amazing how things have developed. For the better? I don’t know really. Let’s make a re-cap ..

Ruffa flee to USA – yes, with children, and yaya and annabelle in tow. She even managed to wage a word war with dolly anne carvajal when the latter translated and published links as emailed to her by her readers. She was peeved and slighted by the write up about her alleged marriage to a Richard Daloia and the piece about yilmaz’ family background. But why the heck can’t she confirm or deny these? To assault a respectable journalist such as Dolly Anne and accuse her of poor journalism is a big mistake ... you barked at the wrong tree, Ruffa! Now, it is likely that more of your hidden “can of worms” will be made available to the filipino public. Don’t you have any shame left in you?

Yilmaz calling Ruffa a traitor (and yes, nicknamed her Brutus, too) – the poor chap suddenly became aware of how Ruffa had ridiculed him and their marriage for the sake of publicity. He came to know about how Ruffa tried to turn the chain of event into her advantage – seeking public support and projecting herself as the “victim” in this drama, to the point of trying to revert the truth and imply to the public that she is the one leaving Yilmaz because “she can’t take it anymore” and not the other way around – the nerve! She made a circus of her marital problems, insulted the muslim community when she re-affirmed her christian faith (sic), played on the emotions and sympathies of the filipino people, and that of Yilmaz, too. I have suspected early on that Ruffa was not telling the truth as to the real issues surrounding Yilmaz’ ultimatum in seeking divorce – that Ruffa have to choose between their family or her career.

Yilmaz, according to Ruffa, hoped for a reconciliation – he seeked the opportunity for them to talk ... but Ruffa simply gave him the runaround. Why? Is it because she saw an opportunity to really break away from their marriage? Ok, their marriage ... hmmm?! Was their marriage even binding? Can someone show a copy of this so-called marriage registered in the Philippines? Did anyone bothered at all? You see, I’ve been trying to do some math here ... Ruffa supposedly got married to this Daloia guy in January 1999. She met Yilmaz during the Cannes Film Festival in 2000 – meaning Ruffa was still (?) married when she met Yilmaz? Did she managed to divorce the guy before she met Yilmaz? Or did she divorce the guy after she met Yilmaz? Why are there no divorce records found? There are records of the marriage, remember? Yilmaz and Ruffa got married in March 2003 – and at the same time Yilmaz announced Ruffa was pregnant. There’s talk on blog threads – could it be that Lorin is Daloia’s and not Yilmaz’ daughter? Venice look very much Eurasian compared to Lorin – I do hope this is all but pure gossip, for Ruffa’s sake.

Rumour started surfacing when Ruffa, time and again, showed up in Manila with her standard showbiz phrase – “I miss my family and friends”, “I miss showbiz”, “I have a commitment to fulfill” ... this could go on. People’s wagging tongues starting blabbering – something’s definitely wrong in her well acclaimed “Istanbul paradise”.

When Ruffa claimed she married Yilmaz for love – honestly, I doubted it from the very beginning. Boy, was it such a relief to be proven right all along. It’s not nice to gloat, but I sure did – just because all her big fat lies finally slapped her hard on her face.

Seeing the first video interview of Yilmaz where he struggled to explain his side in a language truly foreign to him, I feel his frustration, disappointment and sadness. This guy’s no saint, he never claimed himself to be. Ruffa was the one who’s been telling one and all what kind of a husband he is – directly and indirectly. The public has formed their very own impression on this guy ... all according to the information Ruffa so willingly addressed in her all too perfect ways. Some people were in awe, others squirmed (and got goosebumps in the process).

Yilmaz, according to the latest exchange of TV interviews and print media, has now claimed that Ruffa lied about a lot of things. He was right in saying that Ruffa was disrespectful of him (and his family, of course) – one has to go through all Ruffa’s interviews and will understand his sentiments. Honour to a muslim is sacred. Ruffa crossed this very dangerous line and Yilmaz will not be forgiving. Now, he claims that he will fight custody for his children – and he is likely to have Ruffa be declared as an unfit mother. For Yilmaz to even start this line of defense to bring in lawyers to settle and end their marital woes, Ruffa will surely be in a lot of trouble. She will now have to secure a substantiable evidence and solid proof why Yilmaz is not fit for custody of their children. In doing so, more “dirty linen” is likely to surface.

At this point in time, Annabelle suddenly got wise in advising Ruffa “not to talk anymore” – does she sense “trouble” herself? Ruffa have also maintained that she “never said anything against him” – how wrong she is! For goodness sake, to say that “husbands own their wives” in Yilmaz culture is already an insult to the guy. She has claimed to have embraced the muslim religion and culture earlier only to later turn her back on this very sacred part of her husband’s individuality – that is one big insult not only to Yilmaz but to his whole family as well. Also, to tell in print (and TV?) interviews that her husband doesn't speak (and understand?) English is another thing - that too is very insensitive of Ruffa. And if I may ask, how do they communicate in all those 7 years together? Her refusal to go back to Istanbul depriving Yilmaz of her presence as his wife and that of the children in more than two months speaks volume of disrespect. One need not say anything per se, Ruffa’s actions are bigger than words. Does Ruffa truly have a valid reason not to go back to Istanbul? What's the real issue behind the crying drama both mother and daughter displayed on national TV? Bear in mind that all her interviews are published and recorded – so, Ruffa, think first before you speak. For all you know, all these can be used against you.

This drama isn’t over yet ... it will surely get more and more complicated. Yes, Ruffa, consult the best lawyers there is. I’d say the circus is not over ... the “clowns” are still on centerstage, and so are the spectators as we ... waiting for the curtains to signal its end. Will it ever end?

As the song goes ...
Que sera, sera ... whatever will be, will be ... the future’s not ours to see ... que sera, sera!